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Oct 17 2010, 11:23
  • Red_Head Newbie

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    It's October 17 and I went ti visit my moms grave today. Its been 2 years since I've lost her to cancer and I buried her exactly 2 years ago today. I have not been to her grave often it is extremely hard for me. I paid for the funeral, burial, and head stone all out of my own pocket and I wish my sister would of helped me with the costs. She's 35 and has a great job I had to drop out of collage to pay the bills.. Im just so lost..My sister wont talk to me and my mom is dead.. Its like a double grieving
  • jack morrison ADMINISTRATOR

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    Oct 17 2010, 17:15
    You have suffered several major losses over the past few years. You have lost your mother and feel abandoned by your sister. You have also lost the opportunity to finish your college degree. What other support do you have in your life? Is it possible for you to attend a grief support group? And individual counseling? Are you now working? Would you look at returning to school part time to finish your degree? The grief process takes time and you cannot rush it. Anger at your sister can complicate your grieving process, is she at all interested in meeting up and working through how you both may feel? In the meantime take care of yourself, try to nurture yourself by eating healthy and exercising regularly. Journalling is another great toll to process your feelings.
  • LANCE Newbie

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    Jan 20 2011, 19:58
    hi red head how are you lately? is there any change in your situation? i think you should definitely find a way to finish school. how old are you btw?

    there does not look like much activity on this site. i hope i am wrong, but it doen't look like it.
    • Support ADMINISTRATOR

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      Jan 20 2011, 20:05
      There's a fair amount of activity but it is split between different areas of the site and spread out... we are working on combining the support groups and forums that will bring everyone together.

      Our therapists see every single post... so that might answer your question
      • LANCE Newbie

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        Jan 20 2011, 20:29
        hi montana, that is great, and it makes sense. so can you direct me to the threads with activity? thanks!
        • jack morrison ADMINISTRATOR

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          Jan 20 2011, 21:03
          I would invite you Lance to share this site with family and friends, it's a great way of sharing life's challenges in a safe environment at no cost. Hope to hear from you often. Take care!
  • feelbetter Newbie

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    Jun 12 2013, 22:23
    So I Lost My Mother And My Grandmother Right After Just Recently. Tomorrow Is My Birthday AnD I'm SO Sad. It Is Also My Best Friends Dads Birthday And He Recently Died As Well. Why Did They Leave Us Here Like That? I'm So Sorry I Couldnt Save Them. My Mom Couldnt Talk To Me Or Move For Seven Years Before She Died Bc Of A Brain Injury. I Took Care Of Her Like She Was My Baby. I Really Wanted Her To Walk And Talk Again. I FoRgot What Her Voice Sounds LikE Its Been So Long Since I Heard It. Some Days She Wouldn't Even Look At Me. I Know It Wasn't Her Fault But It Hurt Me So Bad To Feel Rejected Like I Wasn't Loved. I Cried For Almost Six Months Straight Everyday Before She Died And When She Died I Couldn't Cry Anymore. I Had Grieved While She Was Alive. I'm Just Starting To Greive Now After Her Bing Dead For Almost A Year Now. It's Just Starting To Hit Me That Shes Really Gone Forever. My Grandmother DIed Suddenly Right After My Mom. She Was The Only Mother I Had Left. I Miss Them So Much. I Just Ant Them back
  • feelbetter Newbie

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    Jun 12 2013, 22:25
    So I Lost My Mother And My Grandmother Right After Just Recently. Tomorrow Is My Birthday AnD I'm SO Sad. It Is Also My Best Friends Dads Birthday And He Recently Died As Well. Why Did They Leave Us Here Like That? I'm So Sorry I Couldnt Save Them. My Mom Couldnt Talk To Me Or Move For Seven Years Before She Died Bc Of A Brain Injury. I Took Care Of Her Like She Was My Baby. I Really Wanted Her To Walk And Talk Again. I FoRgot What Her Voice Sounds LikE Its Been So Long Since I Heard It. Some Days She Wouldn't Even Look At Me. I Know It Wasn't Her Fault But It Hurt Me So Bad To Feel Rejected Like I Wasn't Loved. I Cried For Almost Six Months Straight Everyday Before She Died And When She Died I Couldn't Cry Anymore. I Had Grieved While She Was Alive. I'm Just Starting To Greive Now After Her Bing Dead For Almost A Year Now. It's Just Starting To Hit Me That Shes Really Gone Forever. My Grandmother DIed Suddenly Right After My Mom. She Was The Only Mother I Had Left. I Miss Them So Much. I Just Ant Them back