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Mar 9 2017, 10:05
  • Kay Newbie

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    After 13 years of marriage and being with the love of my life he wants to separate because I don't like giving bj's. It's not that I find them disgusting or anything I just get in my head and don't do them. I hate that I have hurt him it breaks my heart and I would love to change. I actually have tried the past 2 days and he just pushes me away. Not sure if my marriage is over or if we can fix this, I am trying but I don't feel like he is willing. I understand I hurt him and made him feel bad about himself and I have to live with that and try to make it better, but how do I do this if he pushes me away?
    He said some pretty hurtful things to me that have made me cry and broke my heart but I am willing to let that go and move on, I wish he could do the same. This is the only thing we fight about, even though I could get mad and fight about stuff he does, I choose not to. I put my feelings aside so that we don't fight. I hate that he chooses his friends over his family and likes to stay out all night drinking but I don't say anything and just let him do what he wants to do. I love him so much and don't want not to be with him, but I'm starting to think maybe he does not want to be with me. I just don't understand how me telling him I don't like bj's, he can't get past, when he told me I was a cunt, a stupid bitch, and a bad mom, if I'm willing to forgive him why can he not forgive me?
    Hopeless and I hate myself for not taking care of him and making him feel undesirable. I wish and willing to change if it's not too late. Please any suggestions
  • DoraYip Newbie

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    May 6 2018, 10:35
    Um so i had broken up with my first boyfriend in January and we haven’t talked since. Yesterday, i went to mall with som friends for her birthday and he was there as well. The birthday girl and I were gonna buy something, but our friends had the money and they were downstairs. The birthday girl called them up and she failed to get them to bring the money so i took over. I was talking to him, and it was nice to talk to him even tho he didn’t know that it was me. I was telling all of this to one of my friends and i start to tear up. I dont know what happening. Maybe its that we haven’t talked in a long time or something else. I dont know. Can you help me out? My friend says that it’s because my feelings for him are coming back, but idk. I mean im currently busy liking someone else so idk if it is the feelings coming back. When he broke up with me, he told my other friends that he needed time to tell me the reason why he broke up with me. He said that its was because he didn’t like me anymore but he never told me face to face. Either he was lying that he needed time or there was something bigger than this.