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Jun 30 2013, 15:41
  • kass29 Newbie

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    My husband has currently been using drugs for the past 2 years. I am struggling very bad with my co-dependency. Sometimes i don't even know what to do to fix my problems. My husband says he wants to quit but is having a hard time doing it. So there for, I'm having a hard time trusting him which isn't helping my co-dependency. Sometimes I think leaving would be best but part of me doesn't want to leave because I remember that man I fell in love with and hope he will come back. Any advice from people struggling as a co-dependent? What are some things you have done to help get past co-dependency?
  • consider Helpful Friend

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    May 13 2018, 14:22
    Don’t enable him to do the bad by supporting him to do the bad.
  • consider Helpful Friend

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    May 13 2018, 14:29
    Don’t encourage him to do the bad. Don’t tell him him to do bad. Don’t pay for him to have supplies to do the bad. Withhold any way for him to do the bad. Don’t offer supplies. Don’t drive him to get supplies. Don’t trigger him to do the bad. Find what triggers him to do the bad and then don’t trigger him to do bad. It is what I struggle with others not withholding items from me and I find it more helpful when others deny me access to supplies of food and fluids when I don’t need it. I find it more helpful when others refuse to buy me any food and fluids when I don’t need any food and fluid. The problem is that is I find people don’t know when I don’t need to consume. I find it more loving to withhold supplies and deny me access to supplies.
  • consider Helpful Friend

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    May 13 2018, 14:32
    Find what is making it so hard to stop. It is very likely a resist the devil and the devil will flee, kind of problem.