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Mar 1 2013, 12:23
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    Two weeks ago I discovered that I was in a relationship with an alcoholic and prescription adderall abuser. (Who also suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder) He was spending all his time alone in the garage after we moved in together. When I confronted him, he told me about his addictions. He said he would stop drinking and wasn't sure about giving up adderall. I told him if he ever drank again, I could not stay in a relationship with him. We are currently in a rental lease that we cannot break. Neither of us has the money to move out separately. He continued to make the choice to drink. One night he didn't come home. I broke up with him. He has not accepted the break-up and wants to win me back by proving that he can change. He however has not sought counseling, and does not believe he can afford it.
    How do I live with this individual, without causing him to backslide? How do I maintain healthy boundaries. I no longer trust him. I don't know that I am even capable of giving him a third chance. I don't know if that is a wise decision. I know he feels abandoned and dismissed, because I broke up with him. But he didn't change when given the chance and support.