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Jul 21 2015, 22:04
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    Hi, I'm new here. It seems like every time I try to talk to my family and/or friends about this, I get even more frustrated and confused.

    I quit the job I had in December. It was causing so much stress to the point of it making me physically ill. My husband graduated with his masters and got a job, so I was financially able to quit. I do not regret this decision one bit.

    Now it has come time for me to find a job. The problem is that my previous job has left me scarred and with an inferiority complex I can't get past. I don't even know what kind of job to look for. I know I want to do something I will actually enjoy. I know work is "work" and it can't be fun all the time, but I want to do something that interests me. I don't want to be stuck in a cubicle all day pushing papers. I can't. I'd really like a creative type job. I always have, and every career aptitude test I've taken has told me the same thing. But when people ask me what I want to do, I said "I don't know...."

    I know they say to do what you love, but the thing is...I'm not sure what I love? I know that I love crafting, but I don't want to do that as a career. It's a hobby and I'd like to keep it that way. I like art, but I'm not good at it. It seems like all I'm good at doing it reading (which I love to do, but hate writing...) and watching television.

    My husband tries to help me by asking me to figure out what I like doing. I tell him what I just wrote above. I don't know what he expects me to do. In an ideal world, I would be my own boss and have the freedom to do something creative, but I have no idea what. He wants me to figure that out, but I cannot for the life of me think of anything I can do, or that I would be qualified to do.

    I know it sound like I'm complain. I realize that, and maybe I am complaining a little bit. I just know that I'm tired of sitting around all day every day dwelling on the fact that I need to find the career that's right for me but not knowing how to go about doing it. It's so frustrating and I'm just feeling really lost.

    If we were really in financial need, I would go out and get any job I could find, but because we are doing okay right now I don't feel pressured to apply anywhere and everything just to get a job. This time when I get a job, I want it to be one I actually WANT. I know I am being picky. There are some people who are content to go into work every day and do a mindless job and be happy with it. I wish I were one of those people, but there's something wrong with me and I'm just not built that way. Doing something that I'm not passionate about (but what am I passionate about anyway? I don't know) makes me feel like I'm trapped and seems to really suck out all of the fun in my life. Dramatic? Maybe, but I can't help it.

    I just know that something needs to change and feeling this lost about my life is bringing me really down.

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