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Self Esteem & Shyness

Jan 12 2014, 21:53
  • kris13 Newbie

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    Due to my parents ugly divorce as a child. The yelling, fighting, betrayal, and abuse, now as an adult, I seem to have some serious anger problems. Im with an amazing guy who gives me the world and I can't seem to trust him. I also snap and lash out over stupid little non sense. How can I fix this issue? What can i tell myself to stop ahead of time. I throw things i break things i put my hands on him and its terrible. I don't want to be this way anymore. What can I do? I don't want him to leave me. I love this guy more than anything. Please help !
  • scarlett Contributor

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    Nov 5 2015, 22:17
    You are logically aware you have a problem with anger, and lash out, and you know this is damaging to you and your relationship with this great guy. That is the first step. Another is to start forgiving your parents for being imperfect. As a child you had no say in the relationship between your parents, but you are concerned about repeating things as an adult in your own relationship. In the end, you can't control what another person does, you can only control yourself. I think you really need to talk one on one with a professional therapist who can help you work through your distrust issues. Without forgiveness and making peace with your parents and your childhood, the anger issues will continue and a conversation over the internet will not magically change this.

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