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Post-Trauma Stress Disorder

Sep 7 2013, 15:42
  • xena0025 Insightful User

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    I have been trying to get some help with my situation for a number of years. No one has been able to or willing to help me. I am really in need of a friend who can give me some solid advice and real help.I don't want to hear that I have to take all my losses and move on. I want to fight for my rights and get some justice. I Need a good lawyer and one that can understand what I am going through and what I want. One that isn't going to charge me anything. One that wants to do it pro bono, for the sake of justice. If there is anyone who knows someone like this, please let me know. I am tired of the lack of empathy that the world around me has. I need help or I will end up dead or worse.

    Thanks
  • Ahmed Newbie

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    Sep 8 2013, 10:56
    This is why I'm going to become a lawyer but I'm not one yet so I'm sorry I can't help you.
    • xena0025 Insightful User

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      Sep 8 2013, 12:48
      Thank you Ahmed for your response, when will you be? Maybe I can wait.
  • Saber Contributor

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    Oct 14 2013, 21:51
    Hey Xena - let me ask you a serious question. What kind of justice are you looking for? There is our broken system of legal justice and then there are things like natural justice and true punishment to fit the crime. This is what I struggled with for years when I lost my fiance' at the hands of a drunk driver. There NEVER would be enough legal justice to make up for what he took away from me and how that destroyed me world.

    Maybe we can help each other. I'm no lawyer but I know several of them since I work in the justice system. But if you'll tell me more about what happened... maybe I can try to point you in the right direction. Maybe you need something a lot more than what the justice system offers? Maybe I can help with that too. I hate to see people suffering. But I have also certainly brought suffering to those who have truly deserved it.

    Only if your comfortable - tell me more.

    • xena0025 Insightful User

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      Oct 15 2013, 06:36
      Hi,

      The kind of justice I am seeking is more along the lines of social justice. I cannot even begin to imagine what you have experienced. I am not sure what you know about my situation. I will begin by saying that I suffer from PTSD and Major Depressive episodes. This condition is a result of many years of abuse as a child and into adulthood by my husband. The most recent injury to me was with the legal system. When I went to legal aid to get a lawyer to divorce my abusive husband I was given a lawyer who was negligent. This lead to being given another lawyer who was not interested in helping me and this lawyer aggravated my condition purposely. That lawyer was replaced with yet another lawyer who also aggravated my condition and made me settle out of court leaving me with no money to support myself. My ex-husband is living in luxury and I am on the verge of homelessness. I don't believe that this is justice. I am injured by the system and left to suffer with the effects of their actions. I cannot even afford to pay for my medications. I have been denied benefits from the government even with 2 doctors diagnosis of my condition. I want to sue the first lawyer who caused this to become reality for me but I believe that someone said there was a time limit. I was unable to act on this before because of my condition. Often with this condition I suffer dissociation, sometimes for months , sometimes years. Right now I am off my meds and have been having flashbacks of the events that led me to my situation at hand. I need a lawyer that will act quickly on this.
      I also want someone who will do this pro bono. It would really help me if you know one that will take the case.
    • xena0025 Insightful User

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      Oct 16 2013, 18:59
      Hi there, just wanted to ask you where are you located? I like that you said you brought suffering to those who truly deserved it. I hope you don't think that the suffering that people have brought me I deserved. I did nothing to these people. I was just a stranger in their city. They don't like outsiders. I hope you know someone that can help me. I truly have been victimized. I am just trying to get some justice ao that I can heal myself.
  • Saber Contributor

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    Oct 15 2013, 08:48
    What state do you live in? Where did this all happen?
    • xena0025 Insightful User

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      Oct 15 2013, 19:39
      I live in Fredericton , New Brunswick , Canada. It is difficult to believe that in this country and in this age , that something like this could happen to someone. But it did happen to me and I am suffering every day from it all.I am two months behind on my electric bills , I cannot afford groceries, I cannot afford television, a phone, or the normal necessities of life. How can I move foreward like this? I am suffering from symptoms both pyscho- somatic,and real. During all the legal battle , I dropped weight to an unhealthy 105 lbs due to the stress. I am trying to put the weight back on but because of finances it is difficult to do. I am not young either.
  • Saber Contributor

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    Oct 26 2013, 21:27
    Sorry for the delay... It is also sad to hear you live in Canada. I do not know the laws up there. I do have a friend that practices law in Boston and she is very good at getting justice regardless of who the victim is. But she is only licensed to practice in New England States. It is possible she could give you some advice but she wouldn't be able to take your case.

    I do wish there was more I could do. My situation is very similar except the sides are turned around. My EX is the one living in luxury all the time and I don't get to see my children because she knows how to lie and work the system. If it means anything, my empathy extends on many levels and I feel bad there is not more I can do.
    • xena0025 Insightful User

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      Oct 27 2013, 01:55
      How old are your children now? I can only offer this little tip. If they are still young they will eventually see that you have been lied about. They will grow up and see reality. Hopefully then, you will be able to form some kind of relationship with them still. In the meantime, what you do now greatly affects how the future looks for you. If you want your children to respect you in the future set an example for them. Pick up the pieces of your broken life and move towards making them proud of you. Be there for them if they need you and that will speak volumes.
  • tom Contributor

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    Dec 25 2013, 21:12
    Sorry xena but if you agreed to any type of Settlement there is nothing no lawyer would be able to help you with,anytime your in a situlation like a Divorce you never want to sign anything or agree to anything unless you fully understand what your getting an your agreeing with it,after you sign something that gives you nothing to Live off of your on your own from that point on an no one no matter how good they are couold undo anything you signed to give up your rights to what you should of Had from the beginning

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