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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Nov 12 2013, 23:06
  • Crys Newbie

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    Hello, my name is Crystal. Please help me as I can't stop picking at my scabs!! I'm a 32 year old single mother of a 1 year old girl. I was in a fire about 6 years ago, resulting in 3rd degree burns on 30% of my upper body, including face, neck, shoulders, arms, and hands. My problem is surely due to anxiety and stress, but I'm on 3 different antidepressants, plus 2 other medications that are supposed to help with nerve pain as well as relieve the sensation of 'itching', and I'm sick and tired of it, yet can't seem to make myself stop! My skin is easily bruised, cut, scraped by minor bumps and sometimes I don't even know I hurt myself at all (or how) until I catch myself picking at a sore that was almost healed, it happens every time. The majority of these sores appear on my hands and my back, at any given time. The latest ones haven't healed since a few months after my baby was born. She is now 13 months old! The ones on my hands are extremely hard to keep covered for the time period needed for healing, and the ones on my back are also hard to keep covered as for their positioning, yet I catch myself trying anything to be able to scratch and pick back there! I wear gauze or bandages and gloves as much as possible (if possible), but I do have a toddler to tend to, dishes to wash, and work to do. I know, excuses and more excuses. I'm at a loss. I've tried everything I can think of myself, as well as suggestions from family and friends so now I am seeking your advice. Please help me. Please.
  • donjaf Contributor

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    Nov 6 2016, 01:18
    Hi Crys,
    How's is it going, any better?
  • KCal Newbie

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    Nov 27 2016, 10:24
    Hi Crystal. One technique to try, every time you get the urge to pick at a wound that is trying to heal, delay the picking by getting up and going in the direction of something you love to do. For example, if you love to cook then get up and cook something. Or go kiss your baby and read her/him a book. Tell yourself that you can pick on the wound later but you are going to delay the urge for one minute. Each time you delay the urge for even a minute you are teaching your brain that the urge will pass. Initially try to delay the urge just for one minute then try to increase the time. Also avoid things, like watching TV, that cause you to do the picking more often. Feel empowered and victorious every time you delay the urge by putting your fists into the air and saying "I did it." This will also feed your brain a positive message which will help as well. Each time you delay the urge and celebrate your victory it will get easier. The brain is very capable of learning but you have to be disciplined enough to teach it. You can do this and you deserve it.

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