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So many reasons I'm anxious

Anxiety & Panic Disorders

Apr 25 2016, 13:43
  • anxious789 Newbie

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    Hi--I'm new here. I'm a 31-year-old woman, married, and anxious about so many things.

    First, a vanity anxiety: I went off of birth control several months ago and my skin has become horrible to the point of random people actually commenting on it. I have acne and the red blotches take forever to fade away. It really gets me feeling down and I have actually lost sleep over it. I know this probably sounds stupid, but it's a real anxiety in my life right now. I just feel ugly, unattractive, and not like myself.

    Second, I don't know if/when I'll have a baby and I would like to. My husband and I currently have to live in two separate states because of our jobs and clearly this isn't an ideal situation in which to get pregnant. I am anxious because the older I get, the harder it could be to get pregnant. I don't know what to do.

    Third, my family and friend circles have shrunk significantly in recently months/years. My whole extended family has broken down for various insane reasons, none of which are in my control. The older generation has become toxic to everyone younger than they. Meanwhile, people in the other generations pretty much stick with their immediate families instead of coming together anymore, as we used to when I was younger. I feel I have fewer and fewer people on whom I can rely and to whom I can relate. Many of my friendships have fallen by the wayside, mostly because so many of them were friendships of convenience and the circumstances for that convenience are no longer existent. I don't want friendships like that, but it's hard to "replace" those friendships with new ones because making friends as an adult is hard. Because my husband lives in another state for most days of the week, I'm alone most of the time. I'm a naturally social person, so this situation has really gotten me feeling bad.

    I haven't been eating as healthily as I should or working out as often as I should, and I know this is contributing to my overall sense of feeling down. But I also don't see the point in trying anymore. I'm ugly, I have no worthwhile future, and I have basically no one to look or feel good for.

    I'd really appreciate any advice, tips, or even just mutual support--I'm happy to support anyone who needs it. Maybe we can help each other.


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