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Anxiety & Panic Disorders

Jul 19 2014, 13:58
  • Dee Newbie

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    I am a 30 year old woman, I have been married 8 years,and I have a beautiful one and a half year old son. My husband is a wonderful dad and he is very supportive of me. I know I am really lucky, but there is so much happening in my life right now that is stressing me out, I don't even know where to start.

    1) I recently started my own practice and it has really played on all my insecurities - what if people don't like me and my business fails and I let my family down? What if I mismanage the business and it fails? Why did I think I could do this?

    2) My dad's cancer recently came back and I don't know if he's going to be ok

    3) My mom and I have been in a weird kind of overly involved relationship. About a month ago she felt criticized by something I said and lashed out in the way she always does in these situations, but it leaves me feeling totally broken and unable to cope. I have since been trying to put some emotional distance between us so that I am not so vulnerable to these kind of attacks, but it has been really hard and sad. Also I don't really want her to know anything has changed because she is also upset about my dad.

    4) I was abusing prescription medications to help me escape my difficult feelings and I stopped 2 weeks ago after my psychiatrist found out and got upset with me, now I am stuck with these feelings which feels terrible.

    5) I don't feel like I fit in anywhere. I am completely alone. Every time I'm around people I feel very self conscious. As if I'm inconveniencing them just by existing. I constantly feel embarrassed and out of place.

    6) I am not comfortable with my sexuality. I feel weird wearing dresses or high heels or earrings or painted nails. I'm trying to dress professionally for the practice, but often I end up feeling like I'm playing dress up. I'm not comfortable in my own skin. I don't enjoy sex. Even just kind and comforting touch literally gives me a panic attack.

    7) I have terrible insomnia

    If you are still reading, thank you. I know it's a terribly long post. I appreciate any input.
  • Eternal Sadness Helpful Friend

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    Jul 23 2014, 05:54
    You have a lot on your plate. I would keep working with a therapist, but not necessarily the psychiatrist, who mainly deals with meds, not talking and setting long tem goals. I would work with someeone who can help you set goals one at antime. You need some successes.

    I think you are right to distance from your mom right now. But you need support. Is there a support group you can attend? I find it very helpful, and most of us have more than one issue going on, just like you.

  • Trish Helpful Friend

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    Jul 25 2014, 05:25
    Hello Dee, i am sorry to hear that you are struggling at the moment. As the helpful friend above said, it does seem like you have a lot going on, hence why you feel overwhelmed.

    1. I consider setting up your own practice a big accomplishment. Well done for making it happen. I cannot imagine all the hard work you've put into creating it. So well done. With regards to people's opinion of us. I have found through my experience that people will usually treat you how you treat yourself. I think this may be the perfect opportunity to address this aspect of your self image. Be kind to yourself. When you do this, you respect yourself and you regain the power of choice. You decide what kind of people you want in your personal and business life. From what you have said, it appears you have some work to do in being kind to yourself.

    2. I am very sorry to hear that your dad's cancer returned. My dad has cancer too and recently lost one of his kidneys to it. We have been taking each day one at a time. This approach is working well for us. Even though we cannot change the situation, this approach is helping us to maintain our peace and inner strength so that we can be there to support him.

    3.I have a difficult relationshipwith my mother as well. I suggest working on building your boundaries. Set these healthy boundaies for yourself. They will not only help you with your relationship with your mum, but with all of your relationships.

    4. I also struggled with not fitting in for so long, and then i made the decision to live and enjoy my life. What's fiting in anyways. I realised it was no use making an effort with people who are not willing to do the same. Focus on living and enjoying your life and the right kind of people will be drawn to it.

    I hope that things get better for you. It would be great if you can update us as things progress.

    Love and Light.
  • Joe37 Helpful Friend

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    Nov 20 2014, 23:09
    I think you worry too much about everything in your life. Talk to your husband about what you feel and share your thoughts. You could continue with the professional help if it goes well for you.

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