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Anxiety when things don't go as planned

Anxiety & Panic Disorders

Sep 21 2013, 00:16
  • Ares13 Newbie

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    It's not about everything in my life just some things. For example, I used to hear about how great my cousin's relationship was and mine, that was 3 years longer than hers, would make me anxious when things weren't perfect. Like oh we get into a disagreement, oh my god it's not happy all the time!!! It would make me lash out or get upset because things weren't 100% perfect. That feeling just kind of vanished after awhile but now I have another problem...

    I've always been excellent at school. I'm somehow socially awkward now and not good at making friends. I have 3-4 total friends, one including my cousin. However I've always prided myself on my school work. I've never had trouble getting straight As. It's something I've always been good at. Well I'm working towards my bachelors now and I just transferred to a 4 year school. My math credits didn't meet the new schools so they said I would have to take Algebra and pre-calculus all over again. I guess my counselor didn't get the memo because she put me Physics. It's too late to drop the course and I'm a commuter so I can't go to the tutoring sessions. They are 8pm-9pm. I'm struggling in this course. I haven't struggled this hard since my math classes in high school, actually this is worse. I get overwhelmed easily about it and when I try to understand the problems better, I just give up. I need to get a C in this course. I shouldn't even be in it! My teacher said this but I can't get out of it now. I've never had trouble with school and it gives me so much anxiety!

    My mom and grandma both take Xanax and have anxiety problems. I see how I relate to my mom's anxiety. I'm going to a school I HATE (I hate the new school) and can't transfer until this time next year. My boyfriend just broke up with me. I literally hate everything I have going for me right now. I can feel myself getting anxious now. It feels like just this overwhelming bubble welling up in my chest that wants to explode. I talked to my ex about everything and now I don't really know what to do.

    He broke up with me because when he broke up with me last month, I couldn't handle the anxiety of not talking to someone about it. I didn't want to talk to my female cousin, only female I can talk to, because I feel like she already thinks I have too many problems in my relationship. So, I talked to a guy friend but when that guy started flirting with me, I never responded. We never met in person. I just reconnected with him after 8 years because he goes to the same college as me. My ex got mad because I talked to another guy about our problems and broke up with me. I tried to get him to talk to me right now and he just said go rely on one of the people you talked to behind my back. That issue gives me a ton of anxiety too. I literally have no one to talk to but my female cousin and I get tired of being her problem case to take on when she has way more going on than I do.

    I just don't know how to kill this anxiety down. It's so overwhelming and just feels like something needs to trigger its explosion.
  • Trish Helpful Friend

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    Sep 21 2013, 20:37
    Hello Ares13, I am sorry to hear of the situation you are gong through and I can only imagine how difficult it is for you. I will start by saying that I know that things may seem very hard at the moment and you may feel like you are not on top of everything but we have all gone through times like this before. every person will, if they have not, they will at some point in their life. Life challenges are different for everyone. for you it may be a school and relationship issue at the moment, for someone else it may be a health or financial issue. We all go through life challenges that will seem to want to overwhelm us but it is a part of life. I am presently going through a difficult situation in my life and things have seemed overwhelming at times but I keep reminding myself that things will get better and another season will come when things will not be as challenging. I may not have any practical advice for you as to how to go about things but I can definitely relate. Whatever you chose to do, please remember that you are not alone. Please do an update on how things go as I know that things will get better.

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