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Narcissistic Girlfriend. Help!!

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Feb 2 2013, 05:59
  • Bradley08 Newbie

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    Okay so my girlfriend and I met on a dating website a year ago. We talked on the phone for a few months and all was great and then we decided that I would move in with her. Everything was perfect for the first couple of months and then everything went downhill. By April I was ready to leave and so I did. I came back in May and once again all was well for about a month. I then decided to leave again in September. I was doing great on my own for a couple of months and then she texted me. Long story short I'm back again only this time I'm ready to leave but have no way to get home. I live in Virginia and my family is in Iowa 1000 miles away. I've been doing alot of research and I've found that the only "disorder" that makes sense is Narcissism. She repeatedly puts me down and makes everything my fault. And since I have no family and virtually no friends here everyone takes her side and wants nothing to do with me. Nobody sees it but me and my roommate because she puts on a persona for other people when we go out(if we go out). I do not work because I recently had an injury and am awaiting surgery, but I desperately need to get home. My family cannot help due to bills etc. etc. I have nowhere else to turn. Advice is absolutely welcomed and appreciated. Thanks!
  • polaris Contributor

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    Feb 2 2013, 23:40
    Hitch hike home, wouldnt that be an adventure. Im sorry it was a harmless joke. Listen, are you in love?? Because you went back a lot. Im only saying this because you knew what you were getting yourself into. And now more than ever because you cant get back when you want to, you desperately are in need of space from her. Hace you talked to her? Like told her you dont want to be in a relationship with her and if you both can be adults about this and separate on good terms only maybe she can help get you home? As for her friends and family well thats a shame because to me no matter who it is I dont care if its my own mother, whoever is wrong is wrong and whoever is right is right. Im a female, and in my opinion, your girlfriend likes that kind of attention she gets from you especially when you leave and come back. Its kind of like, oh yeah what did I tell you, he was going to come right back to me, and if I treat him so bad why does he keep coming back......
    • Bradley08 Newbie

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      Feb 3 2013, 01:51
      I guess in my mind I really did think that things would be different the next time around. And yes I've tried talking to her many times it all comes back to me being the "screw up" and all of that nonsense. I do regret coming back but at this point it's far too late. I'm just in a rut and I'm not sure what I can do to get out when she refuses to give me any sort of help whatsoever.
      • polaris Contributor

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        Feb 3 2013, 19:54
        You dont have any credit to get a loan to travel? I mean seriously, what about your room mate? Boy did you really get yourself in a pickle. Im telling you man you should hitch hike, if you are serious do what it takes before you really go nuts.Isnt there aid out there/? Like GR? Welfare? http://www.dss.virginia.gov/benefit/gr/ Theres the site for GR you get like food and cash aid but say your homeless that way you dont have to wait for it in the mail and she finds it and who knows what, hope that helps

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