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Support Group Summary from our Therapist (What is a support group?)

Updated on Oct 19 2010

In my practice I continue to see frustrated parents of adolescents who are engaging in the push pull struggle. As children approach early to mid adolescence they naturally gravitate more towards their peers. Family, on the surface become less important and are for the most part pushed away. This is a normal part of development as children are forming an identity and preparing to leave the nest. However parents experience being pushed away as hurtful and either react by becoming excessively needy and sabotage their child's attempt to move away from the safety of the parental support or become angry attacking the child's value system and inducing guilt in their child. Both defenses can have disasterous consequences. Ideally you want to establish effective and honest communication thereby sharing with each other the feelings on both sides associated with this process. Validating each other and finding middle ground allows for everyone's needs to be met. Please share your experiences.
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